tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8529581759085389615.post4998091365085484911..comments2023-09-13T00:59:04.013-07:00Comments on Please Try Again: Ooo, Das Not Mah Baby's daddyAlex the Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13516151350022189691noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8529581759085389615.post-7673543479100178072011-06-13T05:48:40.026-07:002011-06-13T05:48:40.026-07:00OOO, My ex-husband left, never to be heard from si...OOO, My ex-husband left, never to be heard from since, when my daughter was 7 months old. We call him the sperm donor as well. My daughter is now 16 years old and I have thought many times, what would happen if he tried to contact her now. Remaining neutral is sure good advice BUT I don't know if I could do it. My daughter hasn't (that I know of) a desire to find the sperm donor, although she has said that when she turns 18, she will ask him for all the UNpaid child support that he owes!! I have to believe that she is smart enough to KNOW who was around and who wasn't!!<br />Good luck with this!!Shanahttp://shanasplace.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8529581759085389615.post-80115280034375328932011-06-11T17:28:26.139-07:002011-06-11T17:28:26.139-07:00Alex!!! I nearly fell off my chair when I saw a p...Alex!!! I nearly fell off my chair when I saw a post from you. You've been missed.<br /><br />I'm sorry that something so upsetting has brought you back to your blog, though. But I think Kathleen and Kaye have given you very good advice, just act neutral. Your daughter is smart enough to figure out the truth on her own. And she will do that much more quickly if you don't try to sway her opinion. She knows that you're the one who has been there, supporting and loving her, from day one. Be patient. She'll figure it out. {{hugs}}Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04589606390781637262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8529581759085389615.post-63739430327031291502011-06-08T07:43:20.955-07:002011-06-08T07:43:20.955-07:00the hardest thing for a mom to do--remain neutral ...the hardest thing for a mom to do--remain neutral :D I'm glad to hear from you again.kayerjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08479123027080062607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8529581759085389615.post-75338684377820236092011-06-08T03:33:09.947-07:002011-06-08T03:33:09.947-07:00Oy. Sounds hard, my dear. Of course you can't ...Oy. Sounds hard, my dear. Of course you can't always "feel" neutral, but you can "act" neutral, yes? You're a wise woman compassionate woman. Novelty, especially when you're a young perfect daughter, is pretty high up there on attractiveness. But novelty has a shelf life. Perfect (meaning breathtakingly, beautifully, delightfully imperfect) moms, however, endure, even if they appear to be just backdrop for the novelty at times. Gotcha in my my thoughts.Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372015226222285350noreply@blogger.com